Dads, don't feel left out!
Your relationship with your children can start even before they are born. Your participation in as many aspects of the pregnancy as possible will help you develop a bond.
There is nothing more incredible that seeing your unborn baby's heart beat or feeling him or her move and then hearing that first cry as they come into the world. Go shopping for clothes and toys, attend antenatal classes (a good time to bond with other dads) and be there for the birth.
After baby is born, let Mom have a break sometimes. You can do this by:
- Assisting with feeding (if your baby
is bottle fed) and helping the baby break wind.
- Comforting him when he is crying. Your baby will probably love to lie on your chest.
- Learning how to stimulate and massage your baby. There are plenty of books on these subjects.
As your child gets older, don't come home and sit in front of the TV. Play with him or her, do puzzles, read stories, help with homework and help bath him.
You'll probably find that playing with your child is more relaxing and enjoyable than watching television, as their demanding little minds will take your mind off your tough day at work.
If you do have chores to do, let your child help you. You will be teaching them discipline and you'll have a chance to talk to them about the day. Remember, you have very little time each day to influence and enjoy your family.
Once your children are in bed, it's your time to relax.
Like any great relationship, your relationship with your child is going to take time, a lot of energy and commitment.