DR NAZIA IRAM OSMAN
MATRIC results season is an emotional rollercoaster for both learners and their families. While some celebrate hard-earned success, others grapple with disappointment, anxiety, and uncertainty about the future. The pressure to meet societal expectations or fulfil family dreams can feel overwhelming. Comparisons to peers, especially in today’s social media-driven world, often amplify feelings of inadequacy, making it even harder to see the silver linings.
It might feel like the end of the world if you didn’t pass matric or get a bachelor’s pass, but take a moment to breathe. It’s essential to remember that matric is just one step on life's journey. It’s not the final destination. Many successful people have faced early setbacks and gone on to build fulfilling careers and lives. School may have felt like a linear path, but the road to success takes many forms beyond matric.
As parents, your support is crucial during this challenging time. Reacting with anger or disappointment will only deepen your child’s sense of failure. Instead, approach the situation with understanding and encouragement. Sit down as a family, create a calm space for open conversation, and remind them that failure is not final - it’s a stepping stone to growth.
Share stories of individuals who turned setbacks into successes. Highlight that options abound, from rewriting matric exams to pursuing vocational training, bridging courses, or alternative qualifications. The Department of Education offers supplementary exams and other opportunities to improve results.
Many institutions also provide flexible pathways into higher education, such as completing a bridging course or starting with one qualification and transitioning to another, like moving from a BSc to a medical degree or a higher certificate course for a year could get you into a degree.
It’s natural to feel disappointed but remember this is just one chapter in your story. How you respond to setbacks defines your journey beyond the setback itself. Surround yourself with supportive people who encourage you, and be kind to yourself. Remind yourself that grades don’t define your worth or future success.
Albert Einstein once said: “If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing it is stupid.”
Your potential cannot be measured by one moment.
This is not the end. It’s a fresh start. Take time to reflect, set new goals, and explore the many pathways available to you. Whether you rewrite exams, pursue vocational training, or explore alternative opportunities, know that there’s no one-size-fits-all route to success. Life is about growth, perseverance, and finding your own way. Keep dreaming, work hard, and remember that every step forward—no matter how small—brings you closer to your goals. The future holds countless opportunities. Trust in your ability to rise, and know that this setback is just the beginning of your comeback.
Dr Osman is a clinical psychologist registered with the Health Professions Council of South Africa. She has a PhD, and treats psychiatric and psychological disorders. Osman also helps clients with personal, professional or societal challenges.
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